Monday, 26 May 2008


I can't help you with the procedure of another countries visa. But as for the uk visa process, here are some tips.

1. Tell your partner to keep all the letters (including envelopes) you send her.
2. Make sure you have 3 to 6 months of bank statements to hand before the application.
3. If you are a homeowner have your deeds handy.
4. If you rent then have a letter from your landlord saying it's ok for your partner to stay with you.
5. If you work then have your salary slips available.
6. If you're unemployed, have proof of benefits. (Unfortunately if your income is too low you will most likely be rejected as you have to prove you can support your partner without claiming any more public funds for him/her.) A way round this is to get letters from family members (saying they will help support you) along with their bank statements. Due to illness I recieve Income Support and D.L.A. This was deemed acceptable and my 'then' fiancee was granted her visa.
7. Include pictures of you together with your partner.
8. Write a letter of invitation

If all of the above are followed then a finacee visa shouldn't be a problem. A few years back my wife was refused a visit visa, she wasn't my wife then of course but she was refused on 3 points. She mentioned looking for work (A BIG NO NO on a visit visa) I mentioned she was having problems at home in my invitation letter (ANOTHER BIG NO NO) They said that she had weak family ties which led them to believe she wouldn't leave the uk and would become an illegal immigrant. The final reason for refusal was just a document problem which wasn't our fault.


If you are successful in your application, whatever you do DON'T just buy the ticket for the following Day. Your fiancee/spouse must attend a seminar and have her passport stamped. Nobody informed us of this, not even the Visa people so my partner had 2 trips through the seemingly endless security checks at Manila airport, the first time being refused at check in.

Sunday, 11 May 2008


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Safety Tips

After getting through the early stages of a new romance, your first meeting will be imminent. My advice is, even if you completely trust the person you have met. You should arrange the meeting in a public place and preferably with a chaparone. You should also let friends and family know about the date and if possible have them talk to the person prior to a meeting. It's always good to have some feedback from loved ones.

You make think it's only women who need to be precautious when meeting online dates. If so then you are wrong. I recently read about an Australian man who travelled to Africa to meet what he though was the woman of his dreams. He was met and taken captive by a group of men and was held for ransom. He was beaten with a MACHETE and was lucky to come out of the ordeal alive. So all you men reading this TAKE NOTE!!!

Beware of Fraudulent Emails

Aside from fake love interests, online dating is also a playground for other scams.

You may get an email which is something like this:-

Dear Sir/Madam

I am the son/daughter/benefactor of Doctor M Mudhabi, who recently passed away. He left in his wake the sum of $10,000,000 to which I am the sole inheritor. The problem is that I am a minor and the only way I can receive the money is for a sponsor to have the money paid into his/her account. If you help me I will let you keep $5,000,000. Please get back to me as a matter of urgency.


I think the above 'example' email says it all really, but some people are too trusting and hopefully this information will help them steer clear of such scams.

Find Love

Online dating is nothing to be sneered at, and yes there is love to be found. I myself met my wife via online dating. I am British and she is Filipina. We met in January 2005. Prior to the meeting I was approached by several Russian women, all with beautiful photos speaking words of love, but they couldn't provide pictures of themselves with their families or valid addresses.

Please see my other posts on avoiding scams.

Online Dating - Other Anti-scam tips

Ask for your dates address, and send a present or flowers without telling them. Be sure to include your name so if the person has truthfully given you the correct address and receives it, they will know it's from you.

Online dating can be fun once you have performed all the nessecary checks to see that your partner is genuine.

Beware of online dating scams

Unfortunately, dating sites have become a target for con-artists and scammers. There are actual rackets that specialize in 'milking money' from genuine lonely people. However, there are other genuine lonely people who are in financial need. So how do you distinguish one from the other?

First of all, don't be too quick to trust. Ask for pictures of your date WITH his/her family. Or pictures of them when they were young (Fakes usually send catalogue photos, creating an illusion that you are chatting to a beautiful person who loves you). Take careful notice of the things that your date says to you, checking for discrepancies. (example: He/She told you that they were born September 14th 1980, then they tell you it's their birthday this coming june 25th).

A date asking for money DOES NOT always mean that you're part of an online dating scam. You may be one of the lucky few who are blessed to live in a wealthy country. Your date however, may be from a poverty stricken country. Use the methods mentioned above to get an idea on whether your date is genuine or not.